SINGLES SEMINAR

*Presentation 1 – Spiritual investment for your future*
The future is for those that prepare for it.
You need to look at investment
Success is impacting your world with the investment of your personality
1.Spiritual investment
2.Physical investment
The spiritual aspect
1.Your focus should be on Jesus.
1 Cor 3v10 According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise master builder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.
11For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.
12Now if any man build upon this foundation gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, stubble;
13Every man's work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man's work of what sort it is.
14If any man's work abide which he hath built thereupon, he shall receive a reward.

Christ has to be your foundation.

Heb 12v1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,
2Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Jesus has to be the centre of all your relationships

2.The word of God has to be your foundation
Acts 20v32 And now, brethren, I commend you to God, and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up, and to give you an inheritance among all them which are sanctified.

You cannot live your life according to the wisdom of men. It has to be based on the word.
In the word of God  is where you have the plans of God revealed to you.

3.Prayer.
No relationship works without prayer.
Luke 18:1 And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;
Prayer brings a divine connectivity in your relationships.

4.Have Godly icons
The people you follow must be from the kingdom of God
Phil 3v17 Brethren, be followers together of me, and mark them which walk so as ye have us for an ensample.

In your dealings with the world, never forget who you are
Any relationship not supported by the word of God is not of God.

Work on your character. What you are is what you attract.

*Presentation 2 HIV and AIDS*

HIV is Human Immunodeficiency virus
It causes the condition called AIDS which makes someone vulnerable to opportunistic infections due to a broken immune system
Zimbabwe has a very high prevalence of HIV and AIDS
It is transmitted mostly through sexual interaction.
Its wise to get tested before getting married.
If you are found positive, it does not mean you are going to die. You carry God inside you. You can deal with it.
Its very important that you disclose to the person who you are going to marry your status.
Its illegal in Zimbabwe to not disclose your status to your partner.
Deliberately infecting someone with the virus can give you a jail term of up to 10 years.
If you test positive, its important to start on treatment (ARVs) before you go to the healing school
The best method of preventing HIV is abstinence.
Sex is for the institution of marriage
When you are taking care of a loved one with HIV, make sure you do not have contact with their body fluids. Wear gloves and other forms of protection when required. Contact your local clinic for assistance.

*Presentation 3 Courtship*

After salvation, the most important choice you make is who to marry
For 2 people to live together in harmony, there must be an agreement spiritually, mentally and physically
No sex before marriage.
You are not marrying for sex, because you are old, you want money, you got pregnant or just because you love the idea of marriage
Marriage is Gods idea so it will not fail
It is God not Adam who said Adam needed a help meet.
The purpose of marriage is to be joined with someone of the opposite gender who will help you fulfil Gods purpose for your life.. That’s the primary purpose
Secondary reasons are, Having Godly seeds and companionship.

Courtship is a relationship with a goal to lead to marriage.
The church must be involved from the beginning.
Life is spiritual
The church expects to be involved right from the start.
Before you even introduce that person to your parents, the church must know.
In your courtship, ensure that that person is in Christ and serves in the house of God
If you are not serving in the house of God. You are not ready.
Ensure that the church is aware of your wedding arrangements, proposed dates etc
You cannot give instructions to the church, follow the right procedures.
Do the word, walk in the word and this life of glory is yours

*Presenation 4 Question and answer segment*

Q. What does a brother do when after he notices a mighty woman and he discovers that she is in a relationship with a non ministry member.
A If you are led by the spirit. In prayer God will reveal Ms Right for you and that person will wait for you. She will not get into an unequally yoked relationship. Do not rush.
God will lead you besides the still waters. Those are not still waters.

Q. Is it true that in our ministry, the qualification to marry is to be a tither, buy 1000 rhapsodies, join a cell group and serve in a ministry department

A.Would you like to marry a robber. A non tither is a professional thief. If you want to live a broke life, marry a non tither.
200 is the minimum number of rhapsodies you are supposed to buy for your wedding day. It is encouraged that all your guests must receive a copy. It is a means of saving souls in your family. Do not see this as an expense. Its about souls
You must be serving in a ministry department. That proves responsibility. It starts in church
You must be a partner because partnership proves sonship. Marry a son of Pastor Chris
You must be in a cell. Anyone who is not in a cell is not a member of Christ Embassy.

Q. I met someone online. Should I date him
A.NO, go to your pastor whenever you find someone you like. Do not hide this from your Pastor.

Q. Is it possible to see the person I am to marry in my dream and what am I to do
A.Go to your pastor. Some dreams come because that boy/ girl has been in your subconscience.

Q. If a girl elopes to me what should I do.
A.Marry her. That normally happens because she is pregnant.

Q. Whats the right age to be married
A.There is no rights age. You get married when you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally stable

Q. Will she submit because she is younger
A.Not necessarily. Age does not matter. Its important that a lady marries someone who she reverences.

Q. Does God allow a single to marry a divorcee whose ex is still alive
A.As long as its legal it is allowed. God hates divorce, do not cause divorce.

Q. What do you do when you get pressure from your family to get married.
Patiently hear your parents side, treat them with love and pray about it.

Q  Can I marry from another ministry
A.Sharp doctrinal differences can destroy a marriage. At the end the couple would have to choose one church. Deal wisely

Q. Are secret relationships allowed
A.NO. Whoever wants a secret relationship is not serious with you. Sisters be guided by your Pastors whenever you get approached.

Q It seems there are no single men in our ministry. What should I do.
A.Sister look around. Release the right sound code (confession)

Q. Is it good conduct to visit each other at home during courtship
A. Yes and NO. Avoid late nights and compromising lone times. Be transparent. No romantic interaction. Don’t play husband and wife before getting married.

Q. Is it wrong for a man to have two wives even if the first wife has agreed
A. It is wrong. God said he will give you a help meet. Not help meets. Marrigae is Gods idea not mans idea

Q. How can I choose the right mate
A. Your pastor will help you choose. Trust your Pastor.
Points to note. – wrong foundations
1.One Party is Too Busy to be Involved in Church
2.No Financial Commitment to the Gospel
3.One Party is Not Submitted to the Authority of His/Her Church
4.One Party is Always Demanding for Money or Other Resources

*PASTOR RUTH*

The word of God has all the answers you need today
The word works.
Your part is to receive. The grace is available here
You are a blessing to ministry and we love you

Isa 40v31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

It matters who you hang out with.
Any relationship that takes you away from God is not from God.
Which company do you keep
Which counsel do you take

Friendship is about peer pressure. If you still young, you are easily influenced by friends.
You are the light of the world
You take the world to your friends and influence them
Prov 27v17 7 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
You sharpen your friends with the word of God.
Be the one to sharpen your friends
Let your conversations be filled with virtue. When you visit people minister grace unto them.
Its not stupid to speak the word of God with the girl you love.
Be guided by the Holy Spirit. Let him take over your conversation.

There is no curse that can cause you to not get married.
Num 23v23 Surely there is no enchantment against Jacob, neither is there any divination against Israel: according to this time it shall be said of Jacob and of Israel, What hath God wrought!

You are marriageable, You are a child of God and you can get married

If you family forces you to go for a ritual, remember,
Mark 16v18 They shall take up serpents; and if they drink any deadly thing, it shall not hurt them; they shall lay hands on the sick, and they shall recover
If you eat any deadly thing, it shall not hurt you.

Who do you get your counsel from.
Get your counsel from an spiritual person.
Don’t be desperate to get married. You will get married to the wrong person.
Be guided by the word of God.
Don’t be like Sarah who could not wait and decided to help God perform a miracle by bringing in Hagar to give birth to Ishmael.
Wait upon God, in your case, he will show up

Your character.
Are you marriageable. Do you not chase potential partners away from you by the way you conduct yourself.
Ruth 3 Then Naomi her mother in law said unto her, My daughter, shall I not seek rest for thee, that it may be well with thee?
2And now is not Boaz of our kindred, with whose maidens thou wast? Behold, he winnoweth barley to night in the threshing floor.

That’s right spiritual counsel from Naomi to Ruth
I will direct you to you Boaz or Ruth. She will be in a place of prayer.
The threshing floor is a place of prayer.
Men looks at the outside, God looks at the inside. Trust you Pastor.

Ruth 3v3 Wash thyself therefore, and anoint thee, and put thy raiment upon thee, and get thee down to the floor: but make not thyself known unto the man, until he shall have done eating and drinking.

Are you marriageable.
1.Wash yourself. Do not smell bad, be presentable.
2.Be anointed. Dress up in the spirit
3.Don’t make yourself known unto the man until he marries you

All sisters should remember Ruth 3v3
A woman should seek a man who fears the Lord
You will tell by his language and by how he treats other people

A woman should seek a man who is not afraid to love
A lot of young men today are afraid to commit. We need men who are not afraid to love
A man who is not afraid will say, I want to go and meet your Pastor.

A woman needs a man who can admit his faults and admit when he has hurt you.
A marriage is a union of two forgivers
Don’t marry someone who cannot forgive e.g someone who cant forgive his mother

A woman should seek a man who can control his passions
A man must control his desire for the opposite gender.
Don’t turn a blind eye to this sign

A woman should seek a man who honors his parents
If you want to see how a young man will treat you, see how he treats his mother.

A woman should seek a man who is in the process of becoming a leader who knows how to serve
If a young man does not know how to serve others, his ability to start a family is questionable.

Prov 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

A man must have wisdom to see the qualities in Ruth 3v3.
Is she anointed, presentable, listens to instructions.

A man should seek a woman whose hope is in the word of the Lord,
Is she focused on the word of God.

A man should seek for a woman who honors her own parents
The girl must be able to tell you that my mother says I must not go out and follows that instruction.
If she has a hard time honouring her parents, she will have a hard time honouring you.

A man should seek for a woman who forgives him when he fails her.

A man should seek a woman who wants to be a wife and a mother.
Her career should not be her number one priority.

A man should marry a woman who knows how to dress.
Her character should be displayed on the inside and not the outside.

A man should seek a woman who knows how to follow the man not the man.
She must understand that she is the vice president not the president.
The husband is the head.

A man cannot marry another man. That’s horrible.
Go to your Pastor if you see that spirit coming upon you. If you see those feelings coming upon you

You may be in a situation right now where you are thinking, will I ever get married
Psa 37v23 The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.
God will lead you. Do not go back to the systems of the world. Keep your mind stayed on him.
The word works. Put your trust in God

Whatever mistake you have done in life, don’t let it hold you back.
God has forgiven you

*You are going to get married* ❤